Q&A with Mountain Brook Police

All In Mountain Brook

A Question and Answer Session
with Mountain Brook Police

Tuesday, March 24 at 6:30 p.m.
St. Luke Episcopal Church
Graham Hall

In our recent program, What Really Happens at Spring Break?, many parents had questions for our police department about what can happen when our youth have “encounters” with law enforcement and the judicial system.

Chief Ted Cook
Chief Ted Cook

All In Mountain Brook is sponsoring a Q&A session led by Chief Ted Cook and other guests from our police department. We invite all who are interested, and particularly parents of teenagers and youth. We extend a special invitation for parents to bring their teenagers!

A panel of professionals from Mountain Brook will be present, including Chief Ted Cook, Municipal Court Judge Turner B. Williams, Captain Greg Hagood, School Resource Officer Bryan Kelley, and Detective Johnny Brown.

The moderator for the program will be Mr. Don Menendez, Vice President for Parent and Community Programs of All In Mountain Brook.


Consequences of Underage Drinking

from the Centers for Disease Control 

Youth who drink alcohol are more likely to experience:

School problems, such as higher absence and poor or failing grades.
Social problems, such as fighting and lack of participation in youth activities.
Legal problems, such as arrest for driving or physically hurting someone while drunk.
Physical problems, such as hangovers or illnesses.
Unwanted, unplanned, and unprotected sexual activity.
Disruption of normal growth and sexual development.
Physical and sexual assault.
Higher risk for suicide and homicide.
Alcohol-related car crashes and other unintentional injuries, such as burns, falls, and drowning.
Memory problems.
Abuse of other drugs.
Changes in brain development that may cause lifelong problems.
Death from alcohol poisoning.
In general, the risk of youth experiencing these problems is greater for those who binge drink than for those who do not binge drink.

more drinking = more problems

Youth who start drinking before age 15 years are five times more likely to develop alcohol dependence or abuse later in life than those who begin drinking at or after age 21 years.

7 Bad Apps

by Dale Wisely

We have three daughters, all adults, two married, one now a parent herself. Due to the timing of their births, Mrs. Wisely and I missed some of the more difficult decisions about cell phones. Our first daughter did not get a cell phone until college; our second not until she started driving; and our youngest was, we think, 14 when she got her first phone. As children and teenagers, our daughters had neither the benefits nor the risk of tablets and smartphones.

If we were raising children now, I am sure we would struggle with the timing of introducing various devices, particularly cell phones. We would struggle, as parents do, about how much to get up on our kids’ business, when it comes to technology. There’s nothing easy about it.

But, as of 2015, I can report that there are certain social networking apps for smartphones we would not allow our children to have on their phones. Period.

I will list seven examples of bad apps. Let me give credit to this website: https://safesmartsocial.com. This site has a list of good apps and bad apps. I’m reluctant to declare any social media apps as safe or “good,” because all have the potential for abuse. I’m more willing to say that some apps are just plain bad, in the sense that, for whatever reasons, they have been especially notorious for misuse by young people. I have adapted safesmartsocial.com’s list of bad apps, even though a couple of these have not really been on our radar locally.

There are probably other bad apps. There are apps that aren’t on this list which people can use in a variety of unwise and abusive ways. Anyone with a smartphone can use the camera to transmit inappropriate photos, the messaging features to spread ugly rumors. But, this list is an example of apps that seem to be particularly associated with trouble.

After School. This is an anonymous social app, designed for high school students. It may hold the distinction of being the most notorious app in this list. It has been pulled from the Apple app store more than once because of the prevalence of bullying, harassment, and exhortations to violence via the app. As of this writing, it is not available on the app store.



Ask-fm. This app is popular among Mountain Brook youth and has been the vehicle for some significant misconduct. It is why it is on the list. In fairness to the people behind this app, there is nothing inherently wicked about the concept. The idea is that a user can post a question for others to answer. Sounds innocent enough. But, because of the ability to post anonymously, we see questions such as “Who hates (insert name of peer here)?” Answers then can amount to social bullying and harassment. To be candid, it is my opinion that no child or teenager should be permitted by a parent to use this app.

KiK Messenger. KiK is an instant messaging app. We have been aware of it as a popular app among elementary students. It is notorious for bullying and for child exploitation. In a 2014 article in The Trentonian, a pedophile said KiK is well-known in pedophile circles.  “I could go on it now,” he told the paper, “and probably within 20 minutes have videos, pictures, everything else in between off the app because I know they’re both still active. That’s where all the child porn is coming off of.”  I just (on February 19, 2015) Googled this product and founded stories from just yesterday about the pedophile-KiK connection. Here’s a typical one from just a few weeks ago. Here’s one where a convicted sex offender called into a local TV station to warn parents about KiK.


Omegle. If you Google the name of this app, you’ll find the promotional line “Talk toomeble Strangers!” That pretty much covers it. (I’m including the app’s logo here in case you don’t believe me. Who would blame you for not?) Omegle is a free chat website that allows users to communicate with others without the need to register an account. This means anonymous use. Do you notice a pattern in these? Among other things, this site offers anonymous video chat. Sound like trouble?

Secret and Whisper are two anonymous messaging apps. Again, anonymous. This lack of accountability emboldens people to say dreadful things and, of course, to read awful things said by others. Like many of these apps, use as a platform for cyberbullying is common.

yik-yak-appYikYak. This one rolled through Mountain Brook like a runaway truck on fire a couple of years ago, died out a bit, then picked up again early this academic year. It has probably been more nationally notorious than any of the others on this list. It is, yes, an anonymous messaging service based on GPS location. A user is able to see anything posted by other users within an approximate 5-mile radius from that user’s location. Given that students attending any school probably live fairly close to each other, this makes it a perfect vehicle for bullying and harassment, with no accountability. It has also been used as a vehicle to make violent threats, including threats against schools. In fairness to this app, after a start-up that included active efforts to encourage the use of the app by high school students, this company has taken steps to discourage it’s use by people under 17 and to filter bullying content.

Don’t get bogged down in the details. An argument can be made that the problem here is not the technology and not the apps. Here are two major points. First, when it comes to social networking, anonymous more or less equals bad. Second, but more importantly, we cannot just give our kids these sophisticated devices and then relinquish responsibility for what they do with them. Ultimately, no one can be more effective for supervising, monitoring, and guiding teenagers in this than their parents.

Let me add that as a potential resource for youth and for parents who want to more about these apps and about kids’ use of social media in general, I found a number of excellent videos about these apps on the aforementioned https://safesmartsocial.com.

ADHD Video Series by Dr. Dale Wisely

Clinical Psychologist Dr. Dale Wisely, who is Director of Student Services at Mountain Brook Schools, has for nearly 30 years offered presentations for parents and others on ADHD.  His recent series at Mountain Brook Schools, co-sponsored by All In Mountain Brook, drew approximately 65 parents to each of three 90-minute sessions. Dr. Wisely is working on video versions of these workshops and has now completed the first set of three videos, about 25 minutes each, covering the nature of the ADHD disorders. They are available for viewing online. See link below.

ADHD 101: Videos by Dale Wisely

Additional videos are coming covering treatment and intervention. Watch this space for updates.

“There is no greater gift to a child with ADHD than to have adults in his or her live who truly understand this disorder,” said Wisely. “I think that is every bit as important as medication, as part of a program of trying to help these kids. Unfortunately, I believe probably far less than 5% of parents get the kind of basic education on the disorder that they need.”

The videos appear at this link:  https://vimeo.com/channels/878943


Renee Napier, whose daughter was killed by drunk driver, speaks tonight at Canterbury.

Tonight! Jan. 26 at 6:30 p.m., Canterbury United Methodist Church/Canterbury Center

This promises to be a very powerful program. This talk by Renee Napier, a mother who lost her daughter and her daughter’s friend, both 20, to a drunk driving incident will be compelling to say the least. Napier will be joined at the talk by the man who killed the young women—Eric Smallridge. See http://www.cbsnews.com/news/mothers-forgiveness-gives-convict-second-chance/ for a sneak peak at what we’ll hear at the talk.